Why being yourself is important?

Do you know what is the main source of unhappiness most of the time?

It's not being our original self.

Yes!

In this post, I will discuss the reasons that stop us from behaving naturally and the importance of being yourself.

Why don't we be ourselves?

It's not true always that we don't want to be ourselves but sometimes due to some factors, we don't/can't behave the way we want to.

Those factors are :

Fear of getting judged

This is one of the main reasons we don't behave naturally. We're afraid of people judging us because we're different and we don't fit in.

You shouldn't be worrying about people because contrary to your imaginary fear, most people don't actually care about you or what you do. It is because they too think the same way! They are also human beings like you. So stop worrying about other people and be confident.

To gain the approval of others

Imagine you meet the opposite sex the first time. Your mind is filled with a thousand thoughts. Now tell me what will be going on in your mind?

"What if she/he doesn't like me?"

"What will she/he think of me?"

"What will be my first impression?"

And due to these thoughts, you try to gain her/his approval and to get it, you behave totally differently. By doing this, even if she/he likes your behavior, you should keep in mind that you weren't being original.

Of course, making a good first impression is important but you can make it by mixing confidence with your attitude. You don't have to wear a facade to get the approval of others. Even if you succeed by faking your behavior, believe me when she/he sees your true self, that great first impression which you made by being fake will vanish in seconds and you'll lose her/his respect.

Peer pressure

Sometimes in a group of our friends, we tend to behave like other friends because we are afraid of standing out. You're afraid that your friends will make fun of you. If you're afraid of them making fun of you for being yourself, then you should seriously think about who you hang out with, because true friends will never mock you for what you are.

Why should we be our selves?

Now I will tell you the advantages of being yourself:

• When you behave naturally, you feel stress-free. Because you don't have to make any efforts for behaving a certain way.

• Have you ever noticed one thing about children? They are always happy. They can always be happy because they are themselves, whether you like them or not. They don't care about what other people think of them.

• When you are yourself, you are confident because you don't have anything to hide. Moreover, when you're confident, people will naturally be attracted to you.

• When you don't care about what other people think of you, people will respect you for living on your own terms.

Trust me, people who don't care about being liked are damn sexy.

• Have you noticed the behavior of people who are always calm and composed? They are themselves. One of the reasons they can stay calm because they are not afraid of being exposed, they don't care about anyone's approval, they don't care about being liked. They are comfortable in their own skin.

As stated above, when you are your natural self, it will be beneficial to your mental health because you will be stress-free and happier.

Sure, you will take some time to find friends or girlfriend/boyfriend but when you find, you'll know that they really like you. Because they've seen your true self.

No matter how many friends you make by being fake, you'll never know if they really like you or not.

The places where being too original may be harmful to you

Though being your self is a good thing, there are some situations in your life when being too transparent or too original can be a bad idea.

• Imagine yourself sitting in an interview... when an interviewer asks you something about your past employer, even you didn't like him, you shouldn't be bitching about him. If you do this, chances are good that you will be rejected for being original.

          In an interview, some diplomacy and decency is expected from you so you should keep that in your mind.
       

• Suppose when your mom wears a saree and asks you that how's she looking, even though if the saree isn't suiting her, you shouldn't answer bluntly by saying that "You look horrible, this saree doesn't suit you". It'll hurt her even it's true because humans are irrational by nature, they don't always think logically. Instead, you should say "This looks ok but you would look great if you'd worn 'X' piece"

Understand one thing that by the above examples, I no way tell you for completely lying or to be fake. I am just telling you that you should be yourself but you should also know how to behave slightly diplomatic where it is necessary. Because no one is black and white in this world. People are in grey shades, a mixture of both.

You will lose your relations and no one will talk to you if you say whatever comes to your mind.

Decide from today that you'll never be afraid of being yourself, but don't be blunt. Have some diplomacy where it is needed to save yourself and your relations with your loved ones.




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