Learn to say NO

"I wanted to do something else, but I had to do that because I couldn't say NO to him."

"I didn't want to go there but I went because I was afraid he would be mad."


You must have said this to yourself at some point in your life.

What do these sentences indicate?

They indicate that you can't say NO to anyone.

Today I'm going to explain to you the importance of saying NO in your life.

Let's first begin with the reasons behind this.

Why most people can't say NO to others?

There are many reasons behind these like,

• Low self-esteem
• You're afraid that what others will think of you
• You think that others will be mad at you
• You feel obligated

Apart from these, there can also be many other reasons based on an individual.

Why is it important to say NO?

If you don't learn to say NO to people, believe me, you're gonna have a hard time.

If you don't feel like doing something, say NO to that person even if he's your friend.
You're not being rude here, you're speaking your mind.

If you feel insulted when someone is making fun of you, tell him not to do it.
You're not being too serious here, you're settings boundaries.

If you are in a situation where you can't help someone because doing so can put you in a danger, say NO.
You're not being inhuman here, you're putting yourself above him which is quite reasonable.

Here's a thing...

You can't always make everyone happy. There's always gonna be someone who will be pissed off because of your denial but the bottom line is you have to learn to say NO to people if you want to lead a peaceful life.

The people who try to make everyone happy and want to be liked by everyone say YES to everyone and when they can't keep every promise, they make everyone unhappy. Not to mention the stress they have to go through to maintain their promises. As a result, none of them is happy.

When you say YES to everyone despite your unwillingness, you may make people happy for some time but you are disrespecting yourself by going against your will.

Keep one thing in your mind... people will forget 99 things you did for them but they will remember 1 thing you didn't do.  The world is just like that. But protecting your interests in such a selfish world is your goddamn duty. So what is the point of  pressuring yourself to make everyone happy at the cost of your happiness?

Don't worry about pissing people off. The real friends will understand your situation and the one who wouldn't, don't matter anyway. And also remember that you have a 'right to freedom of choice'.

The world is full of people who want to take advantage of you but it's your duty to identify them and say NO to them.

You are not obligated to do anything to anyone (unless they are your parents, spouse or children and that too in a situation where their request is reasonable).

Look I'm not saying to become a jerk and do whatever you like even at the expense of others. You should help your friends in need. But if you're protecting your interests and it's not hurting anyone, then it's perfectly right decision to say NO.

Here's a Red pill...

Nobody will look for you in this cruel world, you have to do it yourself. If doing so hurts someone, let it be. Don't try to carry the whole world on your shoulders. The world was running without you before your birth and it would be running without you even after your death. Making yourself happy is your first business.