Being a MAN is not easy

First of all, Happy International Men's Day to all the men out there. 

(You must have noticed that there's a big difference between the number of wishes on women's day and men's day.) 

Today I'm going to discuss some of the issues faced by men that get unnoticed. 

Society always says that a woman's life is tough. Agreed. But let me tell you one thing. Being a man is not a cakewalk either. At least women get sympathies from both genders but we men have always been devoid of this thing. Nobody talks about the hardships faced by men. Our problems are often neglected or worse, people think that a man doesn't face any problem. Which is false. 

 

Men don't cry

If you are a man reading this, let me ask you one thing. Remember when you were about 7-8 years old kid and got physically hurt by something and started crying as it was unbearable? Your parents must have said then, "Stop crying like a girl. Be a MAN." 

Let alone kids, even when you become an adult, you are not allowed to cry in public even you are hurt mentally or physically. Why? Because society believes that you are a man so you don't get hurt. Women can easily get shoulder to cry on but men don't have this privilege. All we get is a pillow and a dark room.

We may suck at expressing our emotions but understand that we also have feelings and we also get hurt. So don't judge a man if you see him crying. He may be facing some hardships which you are unaware of.

Punishments in schools are gender-specific

Whenever a girl doesn't complete homework, she doesn't get slapped by the teacher. They won't even scold them much thinking that they are girls. Okay, fine. But why don't they think twice before slapping and ridiculing boys in front of the whole class? Don't we have shame? Don't we have feelings?

Teachers teach you about gender equality but unfortunately, they are the ones who fail to do so.

We must pay on the first date

While this may not be always the case, but on most dates, a man is expected to pay the bill. Why? Because he's a MAN. 

Men are not credit cards, so stop treating them like such.

Nobody believes us

You must have witnessed an accident between a man and a woman and heard people saying, 'Iski (man) hi galti hogi, bahot tez chala raha hoga.' (The fault must be of a boy because he must be driving too fast.)

Even if you want to test this mentality, perform two pranks on the road.

In the first case, let a girl cry and tell those around her that a man with her had hit her. Chances are high that everyone around those two would start beating him even without listening to his story.

In the second case, let a man tell people that a girl hit him. What would happen? Chances are high that people will ridicule him and nobody would give a damn even if he might be right.

Why they assume that men are always wrong? 

Because we are MEN.

Being unemployed is not an option for us

Nobody talks much about a girl if she is unemployed after graduating but the same is not true for boys. Boys get bombarded with questions about jobs everywhere, be it neighborhood, wedding, or any family function. 

If a boy is good looking but unemployed, he gets hardships in marrying a girl he loves. But if a girl is beautiful but unemployed, it's comparatively easy for her to marry a boy of her choice.

No matter how much we say "Women are equally competent" but a man is still looked upon as the provider of the family. 

Obligation to help everyone around us

Imagine a man who is tired as hell while returning home from work is traveling through public transport. He sees a senior citizen standing. A woman who is looking fresh, young, and capable of standing is also sitting beside him. Can he dare to ask her to give up her seat for the senior citizen? NO. If he does that, people will ridicule him for being a jerk and 'Not respecting a woman' even if his wish was genuine.  

Why are we obligated to help everyone even when we can't and not women even when they can?

Because we are MEN. 

You must propose to a girl first even if she likes you too

Of all the love stories (fiction or real) you have watched or heard of, how much of them can you recall in which a girl had proposed to a boy? 

Very few right? 

I want to ask all the girls who expect that a man must propose to a girl even if she loves him too. 

Why do you have this kind of attitude? Why can't you propose to him?

Even in the case of approaching first, a girl expects that a boy must approach her first. Understand that some boys can be shy too. You won't lose anything if you approach him first. 

Remember that boys also like to be wanted, to feel special. Just because the majority of the boys propose or approach a girl first, don't assume that it's our duty and your right. 

On average, women live longer than men. I don't think this is a coincidence. Women can cry and express themselves anywhere but men don't have this liberty. As a result, they don't express their pain much and it takes a toll on their mental and physical health. 

In the end, I would say that,

It's not easy to get up and smile even when you are crying from inside.

It's not easy to become the support of all the family members even if there is no one to support you.

It's not easy not being able to express your sorrows and deal with it.

It's not easy being misunderstood every now and then.

It's not easy being taken for granted.

IT'S NOT EASY BEING A MAN.

I'm fucking proud of being a man and if I get a chance to reincarnate, I would like to born as a man again. 

Once again, Happy International Men's Day to all the men out there who have been a source of strength for their loved ones.

(Note to the girls: Some of the things which I wrote above are general scenarios. I'm not saying that all the girls behave that way. Understand that exceptions are always there!)